meal time

Mealtime should be a time to connect with our kids and enjoy healthy food in a stress-free environment. This idealized version is not always the case, and for many reasons, kids may end up eating in front of the TV, laptop, iPad, or smartphone. There are multiple problems with this—for both adults and kids.

Obesity:  In general, kids eat more in front of a screen. Some parents are happy to see their child (especially if they are a picky eater) eating more but being distracted while eating means eating mindlessly. This can lead to overeating in the long run since kids don’t pay attention to feeling full and therefore overeat. Research has shown that children who watch a screen during meals are more likely to be overweight.

Digestion: Digestion is aided by really noticing the aromas, the preparation and the sight of food. If attention is more on the screen than the food, digestion can suffer.

Missed social opportunities: When eating alone and watching a screen, kids miss out on connection with others over a meal, learning to make conversation and basic etiquette (taking small bites, not talking with your mouth full, etc.). Mealtime is a chance to slow down, enjoy our food, and socialize. You can model all of this to your child if you eat together, undistracted—powerful stuff!

Exposure to commercials: Commercials during kids’ programming are often for fast food or processed foods high in sugar and calories and aimed specifically at children. Not surprisingly, screen time during meals is associated with increased junk food consumption.

So how to change this behavior in your house? Anticipate that it may not be easy (for either of you) to break this habit, but keep in mind how important this is and stay with it. Here are some suggestions:

Make change gradual: Target one meal at a time, either eliminating screens altogether for that meal or decreasing the time. Substitute music, conversation, or reading books to your child (not having an app read a book). Starting with a no-screen snack is an easy way to begin.

Adults adopt the change, too: No screens for adults as well at mealtimes, not even to text. You can tell your child this is hard for you, too, but you know how important it is for everyone to make this change. Explain your plan to other adults who may provide meals (childcare, sitters, grandparents) so they are also on board with this—consistency is vital for success.

Follow a schedule: Eliminate screens at one meal or snack every 1-2 weeks and you will accomplish the overall goal within 1-2 months. Talk about how different mealtimes are now that you are connecting and eating more mindfully.

Be firm: Don’t give in to tantrums or your child eating less. This behavior will be short-lived, so don’t let it throw you off track. You can however have some occasional exceptions such as snacks while watching sports, but these should be infrequent.

Children age 8-12 in the US look at screens for 5 ½ hours daily and teens spend an average of 8 hours a day on their devices—pretty stunning statistics. Kids who watch a screen during mealtime spend more time on devices overall. Changing this behavior is a good place to start to take control of the excessive screen use in most of our lives.